As hokey as I think the “scenarios” in this book are, I
actually found value in the one at the end of Chapter 7 between Mr. Campbell and
Ms. Petersen (p. 148). In this vignette
Mr. Campbell is trying to help Ms. Petersen to improve her relationship with
Antwon, which has been rocky lately.
Antwon has learned that he can identify with Mr. Campbell, a black, male
teacher in the same high school. The
part about this incident that I related to was when Mr. Campbell advises Ms.
Petersen to have a conversation with Antwon in which she mainly listens and
only interrupts when she has questions for clarification. This will allow Antwon to get his side of the
story out and feel like he has a true voice that Ms. Petersen values. From there, Ms. Petersen was advised to
summarize his story back to him, and continue the conversation from her
perspective.
While none of this is new information I thought that it was
a good reminder for me, because sometimes I am quick to judge what’s happening
in my classroom and only look at it from my perspective. I have found that it helps to take a step
back, have these important (although sometimes difficult) conversations, and
continue to try to build relationships in the classroom. I definitely believe that the students as
well as the teacher benefit from this type of interaction.
The following is a clip of an individual who discusses some difficulties
he faced while growing up and how he dealt with them. There is some
inappropriate language, so consider yourself warned!!
This video, as well as the chapter we read, really got me thinking about one of my
students, C, who frequently talks about her mother being white and her father
being black. She often shares pictures
of her family and talks about her younger siblings (who do not have the same
father). I usually listen to her talk
and look at her pictures, but I don’t often take the conversation much further,
I think because I’m not sure where it might go.
I realize after reading this chapter that she is trying to construct her
own identity and that she sees this aspect of her life as a big part of
that. As Nakkula suggests on page 141, I
would like to, “see how (her) language
may suggest the ways in which they are orienting themselves racially… and to
engage what they say and do, and to find out how they understand and experience
their words and actions.” Now I believe
she’s reaching out and trying to have a conversation, but I am the one who has
been holding back – I’d like to change that after reading this chapter.
While reading this chapter I couldn't help but think of the Steve Martin movie, The Jerk. Even if you aren't familiar with the movie, I think that after watching this brief clip you will understand why this scene continued to pop into my head as I was reading the chapter about racial identity development.
Switching gears... I’m still struggling with who to choose for my case
study. Right now I have a few students
who will probably be in my classroom for the remainder of this semester – which
is a good thing I guess!?! The “girl who
was left on the stage” is not the one who I was originally thinking of, but
after that exercise I wonder if maybe I should go in that direction?!? She is very immature and more difficult for
me to relate to than many of my other students, but maybe those are the reasons
why I should pick her?!?
After reading this chapter, how do you think you will open the dialogue further with student C? It seems like it is easier said than done. I suppose we have to take the risk of having these conversations with our students. I totally agree with what you stated on my blog. Maybe we as teachers do not have to initiate the conversations but can be there when they do happen. I bet both sides would learn a lot.
ReplyDeleteRachel - what I realized is that I don't have to be the one to open the dialogue with C, she is already opening the dialogue and I don't think that I have done an adequate job to respond in conversation with her. This is definitely not something I'm going to plan, but when she shares pictures or stories I would like to engage more in a conversation with her about what it means to have a mother who is white and a father who is black - and see where the conversation goes from there!
ReplyDeleteI might be way off, but I try to make conversations like that safe and neutral so that they always sound the same no matter who is talking about their family. In other words, I would want to make C feel as safe talking about her family in class as any of us in the dominant ideology. I would hate to stumble into that conversation with my students...
ReplyDeleteIn fact, it reminds me of a special friend I had growing up who used to make the BEST blunders. In college he was dating a girl that was asian... one day she showed up at his work. My friend, Chris worked at a liquor store and his girlfriend had stopped by to introduce her parents. Chris said something like, "yeah of course, one minute, I have to take care of this couple," His gf said, "no these are my parents." Apparently the gf was adopted by white parents and it took my boy Chris a few looks back and forth before he figured it out.
In wonder how the racial identity progression differs for adolescents with one black and one white parent? I have two biracial (I hope that's the right term) boys in a class--one very white, one very black. The "white" student made a comment basically stating that he was envious of the "black" students skin tone....
ReplyDeletewish I had been prepared to address that one...